No F Words today

Well, the visit has come and gone, and was fairly uneventful. They rolled in about 8pm and were gone about 12 hours later. Not to mention, their kids were crazy would up from being in the car so much so there was just a “sit back and watch” element to the evening. I kinda think we should get a kid or two just for the buffer they provide.

Overall, I do think it went pretty well. There was certainly the element of a ginormous elephant in the room, but it wasn’t horrible. We talked a bit, laughed a lot, and it was ok. I will say 1/2’s cousin very obviously misses her–she even got a visibly sad face when talking sarcastically about the lack of communication between them. I, for my part, assured the cousin that 1/2 and I had discussed it and felt as though it would be better. (By discuss it I mean I told 1/2 that she needed to be better about emailing, calling, etc.) It seriously was the saddest puppy dog face I’ve ever seen on someone in their mid-thirties.

Even the uber fundamentalist husband was surprisingly friendly and jovial. After they left, 1/2 told me that was the first time she’d ever seen him like that. I really do think that love wins out in the end. I mean, even if he was only on his best behavior at the request of his wife, out of her love for 1/2–love won out, right?

I have been told, that if due to this visit, an invitation is extended to us for the holidays we WILL be going. No questions asked. Ok. We’ve spent a boat load of time with my family (which is not always fun certainly). My thing has always been that I don’t want to spend holidays a part, so we go to the family that is accepting of us and our relationship. If that list now includes her family, I will gladly go. Although it means we will have to see her sister again. Ugh.

Anywho…that’s it for today. Love wins out. No F word. A good day indeed.